Anger – A word that makes you look back at many moments when you lost your cool, without your permission. You did not want to say those words or for them to sound as they did, but the damage is done and now you must apologise even though you believe that your point was valid. The subject matter in many arguments remain untouched and the fight becomes about who said what and how. The humiliation of being in the right yet being wrong, makes you want to hate yourself for not keeping calm at that spur of the moment.
This article is for those who know that their logic is great, but just sometimes, they need to have more control over the outburst.
Weapons for mass destruction. This is nothing but your negative mind, giving you enough of content to make sure you damage your relationship forever and remain enslaved at its feet. These talks are not to make you feel powerful but to make you behave more stupidly than you ever could in a sane mind and when your logical side wakes up to the mess, you will be shocked at what you did. So, control it. Tell your mind to “Shut up” when what it is telling you is not leading you to growth and positive development.
So, stick to the subject and bring in some compassion. Drive some understanding down by turning your sentences around to help the other person translate correctly and resolve the dispute. For eg. “I am so angry with you,” become, “I feel let down and disappointed.” “You always do this,” become “I am trying to understand what made you do this.' Use Anger as a resource for Creation not Destruction.